i like my baby and want to be with it alot-- so there.

one of the great joys/tribulations of pregnancy has nothing to do with this growing belly of mine-- but has everything to do with this big mouth of mine.... i find it WAY too easy to just say whatever crosses my stream of conscience- be it mean, ugly or indifferent. where is my filter?? that being said, sometimes it is a very freeing feeling-- because you know what? sometimes these things need to be said-- and i am just not scared enough not to say them. ( a double negative-- is that allowed? i don't remember..)

so... the topic of the day--- i have a friend who is in the position of needing to take her daughter to day care so her family can keep their health insurance. it is really hard for her! she would so much rather stay home and is trying to figure out something that could make that happen... but in the meantime she has to take her sweet baby to daycare. :( so she posts this as her facebook status-- and the responses- sheesh! i seriously wanted to pop some of these women in the face! everything from --and i quote 'suck it up- you need to share her!' to 'we all went through it and it's good for you and the baby!'

WHAT??? now i understand there are certain moments in time when these things are unavoidable...certain situations where these things are quite literally unable to be avoided. my disgust i don't think (for today) has anything to do with wether or not you choose to use daycare... i honestly couldn't believe the response of these other women! so my question is more towards....
why are mothers not celebrated for their unique, deep connection to their babies?
why is it considered a sign of weakness?  
why would woman after woman say 'you'll get used to it.' ?

doesn't that mean a little part of you has died?

now we are not talking about the drive home after dropping your grown up baby at college! we are talking about real babies! babies that are supposed to be snuggled in your arms, receiving their love and nourishment from you!! all of the research points to that strong emotional and physical connection to their mothers as the rock they stand on for years to come... so why do we pretend??

my friend is hurting-- she is supposed to hurt-- she is a wonderful, connected mother, in a desperate position. where is this world going if that bond of motherhood is not only questioned but scoffed at???

like i said... big, pregnant mouth on the loose... but some things maybe should be said.